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Healthy Communication in Relationships: How to Listen and Be Heard

2024-12-22  McLord Selasi Azalekor

We've all been there – sitting across from someone we care about, feeling frustrated because we're talking but not really connecting. Whether it's with a romantic partner, family member, or close friend, effective communication often seems more challenging than it should be.

Let's discuss practical ways to enhance our communication skills and build stronger, more meaningful relationships.

Communication isn't just about talking – it's a two-way street that involves both expressing ourselves clearly and truly listening to others. The goal isn't to win arguments but to understand each other better and strengthen our connections.

Active Listening: More Than Just Staying Quiet

Real listening involves more than waiting for your turn to speak. Here's how to practice active listening:

Focus Fully: This step demands that you put away your phone, turn off distractions, face the person speaking, and maintain appropriate eye contact.

Show You're Engaged: You could nod occasionally, use brief verbal affirmations ("I see," "mm-hmm"), mirror the speaker's energy level, and pay attention to their body language.

Speaking Clearly: Making Your Message Count

The first approach here is the "I" Statement Revolution. Instead of: "You never help around the house!", try: "I feel overwhelmed when I handle all the housework alone."

This approach e xpresses feelings without blame, reduces defensiveness, and opens the door for solution-focused discussion.

Another thing to consider in order to make your message count is to choose the right moment because timing matters.  Avoid sensitive discussions when either person is hungry, tired, or stressed. Schedule important conversations, ask if it's a good time to talk, and respect when someone needs space.

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The Art of Productive Disagreement

One major hurdle in communication is conflict. Disagreements are normal, but how we handle them matters. Here is how you can have a productive disagreement:

Stay Current:  Address issues as they arise, focus on one topic at a time, avoid bringing up past grievances, and keep the conversation focused on solutions.

Take Responsibility: Make sure you o wn your part in conflicts. Apologize sincerely when needed, focus on behaviors, not character; and be willing to compromise.

Breaking Bad Communication Patterns

Here are common pitfalls to avoid if you want to break your bad communication.

The Four Horsemen (identified by Dr. John Gottman):

  • Criticism: Attacking character instead of behavior
  • Contempt: Expressions of superiority or disgust
  • Defensiveness: Refusing to accept feedback
  • Stonewalling: Shutting down or withdrawing

Instead: express specific concerns, show respect even in disagreement, listen to understand, not to respond, and take breaks when overwhelmed.

In our digitally connected world, consider doing certain communication habits differently. First, s ave serious discussions for face-to-face talks. Avoid emotional topics via text, use emojis thoughtfully to convey tone, and remember that written words lack vocal nuance. 

When things get stuck: take a timeout if needed, re turn to the conversation when calm, consider professional help if patterns persist, and focus on progress, not perfection. 

Effective communication is like a muscle – it gets stronger with regular exercise. Every relationship has unique communication needs, and it's okay to make mistakes and try again. 

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2024-12-22  McLord Selasi Azalekor

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